In the article written by Nicodemus, he presented the idea that the
relationship the child have with their mother affects their behavior. If
a male have a bad relationship with his mother in their childhood, it
will mostly be brought up to their adult life. Behaviors such as always using hurtful words to put the child down,slapping the child or any other physical action, neglecting the child, or using the child to fulfill their unmet emotion. A child growing up in this situation will tend to be more violent towards their mate.
I disagree with that idea. seeing from my
own eyes, i have seen a few guys who been brought up with verbal abuse
from their mother. the guy that i knew was always being put down by his mother, he was told he wasn't smart enough and since he was adopted he was told nobody wanted him. the guy didn't seem to hold any anger or grudges
towards female, rather he still respected his mother and treated her like how a child suppose to treat their mother. Today he treats his girlfriend like how every girl wants to be treated by their boyfriend, he's still kind and gentle towards her even through everything that he been through in his childhood. i guess everyone is
different, some people knows what's right and what's wrong to do. but i
don't think that having a bad relationship with your mother as a child
will create a violent person. male with their hormones and everything
will tend to be more aggressive, but some doesn't know quite well how to
control it.
culture also play a role in how a person should act. Male are expected
to be the person in charge or in control, they gain respect through
power and strength. So male feels the pressure to be the definition of Masculine that society have created for them. A lot of culture do put male in charge and to be in control of everything their mate do.
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