Maternal relationship- Entry 3 Draft 4

In the article written by Nicodemus " The Effects Of Maternal Relationships On Physical and Psychological Dating Violence", he presented the idea that the relationship the child have with their mother affects their behavior. If a male have a bad relationship with his mother in their childhood, it will mostly be brought up to their adult life.  Behaviors such as always using hurtful words to put the child down,slapping the child or any other physical action, neglecting the child, or using the child to fulfill their unmet emotion. A child growing up in this situation will tend to be more violent towards their mate.

I disagree with that idea. seeing from my own eyes, i have seen a few guys who been brought up with verbal abuse from their mother. the guy that i knew was always being put down by his mother, he was told he wasn't smart enough and since he was adopted he was told nobody wanted him. the guy didn't seem to hold any anger or grudges towards female, rather he still respected his mother and treated her like how a child suppose to treat their mother. Today he treats his girlfriend like how every girl wants to be treated by their boyfriend, he's still kind and gentle towards her even through everything that he been through in his childhood.  I guess everyone is different, some people knows what's right and what's wrong to do. but i don't think that having a bad relationship with your mother as a child will create a violent person. male with their hormones and everything will tend to be more aggressive, but some doesn't know quite well how to control it.

In an article that I've read in my english class, "Gender Roles Behaviors and Attitude" by Aaron Devor. In this article he talked about the role that our culture place on gender. This role is expected from birth and till the rest of our lives.  He also said that male in society are expected to be the figure that are in control and the one that have more power in the relationship. I think that a lot of people who want to be the one to hold all the power in the relationship will try to control their partner to an intense level. society make a man look weak if he is under control of his woman, so therefore the man will be more aggressive and intimidating towards his partner to gain control.